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Friends/ June 2016

Quote_Friends are quiet angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have trouble remembering how to fly.

Friendship is one of the sweetest joys in life. Many might have failed beneath the bitterness of their trial had they not found a friend. (Charles H. Spurgeon)

Friends are like windows through which you see out into the world and back into yourself… If you don’t have friends, you see much less than you otherwise might. ( Merle Shain)

It is a mark of a friend that he makes you wish to be at your best while you are with him.

Friends are the flowers in the garden of life.

While you seek new friendships, take care to cultivate the old.

our wealth is where your friends are.

One loyal friend is worth ten thousand relatives.

Do you know how to be  a good friend?

Be a friend first

Just as with your spouse, keeping score when it comes to your friends is never a good idea. Worrying about what your friend does and doesn’t do doesn’t take away from your responsibility as a friend. Being a good friend means that you will always choose to be a friend first. You will be willing to give 100% even if you feel slighted on your end. Rather than worrying about whether you’re always the one to be a friend first, just make the choice to be a friend first.

Be the kind of friend you want to have

This is intertwined with what we commonly call as the Golden Rule: treating others the way you want to be treated. If you put forth the effort to be the kind of friend you want to have, your friend is likely to reciprocate.

Make sure you give more than you take

This is another place where keeping score simply can’t happen. Being a good friend means giving, and then giving some more. Just as in a marriage, both people in the relationship need to be willing to give the other their all.

Be willing to give of yourself

Put yourself out there. Be transparent. Having a friend who we can be transparent with is such a gift. I have a few friends with whom I can bare my soul, but doing so takes risk because I am putting myself out there. Although it can be scary at first, being truly genuine, open, and honest with a friend is so worth the payoff. We all have plenty of acquaintances, but there is nothing like a true friend.

Be genuine

Being fake is never very becoming, but it certainly won’t get you very far when it comes to your friendships. Be genuine in your concern, be genuine in your compliments, and be genuine in the feelings you share with your close friends.

Extend the benefit of the doubt

Conflict a common part of living in the world with others. Of course this would also include conflict with friends. The thing is, most times conflict occurs because of a misunderstanding. Generally, misunderstandings that are completely innocent in nature. Sadly, these misunderstandings often give way to full-out conflict. Being a good friend means that you are willing to give your friend the benefit of the doubt. When conflict occurs, ask questions, get some clarification, and be willing to listen. Extending the benefit of the doubt to another would greatly reduce the amount of conflicts that plague so many of our relationships.

Be there

Being there for a friend means that you are there, simply present, to lift them up in their sorrows while also celebrating alongside them in their joys. Sometimes being there for a friend means doing something and sometimes it means doing nothing beyond just simply being present. I wrote about being this kind of friend in How to Help a Friend Who is Hurting.

Forgive

When your friend does something to hurt or wrong you, give forgiveness. Forgiveness can be so hard, but it is so essential in any relationship. It is easy to withhold forgiveness because we feel like the other person doesn’t deserve it, but in reality, forgiveness really sets the person who grants it free. Once we forgive, we no longer have to harbor hurt and negative emotions. Being willing to forgive is an essential part of being a friend.

Offer unconditional support

Sometimes being a friend means doing the hard stuff. Sometimes we might have to be the one to offer truth when our friend doesn’t exactly want to hear it. Support is easy to give when everything is going well, but it’s when life gets hard that we sometimes have to offer support in a way that will bring harsh words or negative feelings. If you see your friend doing something they shouldn’t, being a good friend means showing them the truth. Sometimes, you may be the only one willing to speak the truth in love. However, doing this very thing is what it means to offer support that is unconditional.

Give unconditional love

We all know that it is possible to love someone but not like them very much. We may have a friend who hurts us, but even in this, being a good friend means giving them unconditional love no matter what. This isn’t always easy, but it is essential in all our relationships including the relationships we have with our friends.

Friends are such a vital part of being human. We were created for companionship, and friends are an amazing way that we achieve that companionship. Take some time to nurture your friendships while taking these 10 things into account. Simply put, be a good friend!

June was a busy month as usual. The all finished another school year with flying colors!!Here is the pictures from the last day. I have a  picture of Aaron too somewhere but it must be on the ipod or something:)

Our BIG project for June was updating our 1978 motor home. We made new curtains and covered the cushions and painted the whole inside. Whew what a BIG job. But it looks so much nicer and fresher.

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Picture of Allie’s birthday cake. She turned 5 June 11. We celebrated her birthday at the beach!

Andrew graduated from Kindergarten.It was sweet.IMG_3461[1]

The cake for tomorrow’s summer reading club launch party at our local library.

Wow when you start documented pictures you realize just how busy you are and that isn’t even all:)

Love this life living for JESUS!!

Happy Summer!!

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